color: SOME SOLDIER'S MOM: Oh, No, Lord! Please...

Thursday, March 22, 2007

Oh, No, Lord! Please...

When you have loved ones at war, there are certain events and phrases that will literally knock the breath out of you and cause involuntary curse words to escape from you. Last night I had such a moment.

A friend emailed me a "Velvet Hammer". That's what the 3rd Brigade of the 3ID calls a notification to their families that one of their own has been lost. They never give the name and they never send them out until the family has been notified. But just seeing the words "Velvet Hammer" in the Subject line literally takes my breath away and makes my heart skip a beat. And the dreaded "shit" word escaped from my lips. "How can this be?" I think. "It's too early." Then I reprimand myself with, "100 years from now would still be too early." I held my breath and am thinking, "damn! damn! damn!" as I opened the email and quickly scanned the text to find what unit.

It was not Our Guys' unit, but a companion unit. But it was their BCT (Brigade Combat Team). I don't know the circumstances or the location. It doesn't matter. A soldier has died. I don't know if Noah knows, he's on a special assignment out of state for a few days. I hope when he hears the news that they tell him the unit and the soldier's name. It will not bring him much comfort; I hope it does not send him into the memories that haunt him.

The news kept me awake for hours last night and I tossed and turned... I couldn't stop thinking about this soldier's family... Did he have a wife? I can feel the pain of his parents... his siblings... I can imagine the reaction of his aunts and uncles and cousins. I'm certain the news flew through his high school friends in the community where he grew up. Somewhere there is a family in shock, crying and inconsolable this day.... every day for the rest of their lives.

I couldn't keep from thinking about the memorial service for Matt Bohling and thinking that this soldier's brothers -- still Matt's brothers -- would be attending another in the Sandbox and at Ft. Benning... I couldn't stop the memories of Tommy Byrd's funeral from flooding in and the recollection of the grief and the faces of his wife, his brother, his parents -- especially his mother -- cause tears to come to my eyes because somewhere out there tonight is another family engulfed in that same grief.

Our hearts go out to this family... our thoughts and prayers will be with them accompanied by our hope that they find peace... and that the Lord has flung open the gates of Heaven and welcomed this soldier Home with loving arms.

Copyright 2007 Some Soldier's Mom. All rights reserved.

10 Comments:

At 3/22/2007 3:15 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I got the news last night at dinner...it was awful. My reaction was the same as yours...it's too early. It was our unit, but I haven't heard any details yet. I just feel for this family and our guys...

 
At 3/22/2007 3:19 PM , Blogger Rebekah said...

I remember the pit in my stomach those Velvet Hammers always gave me, and I can't believe they're already rolling in again. My prayers are with the soldier's family.

 
At 3/22/2007 4:17 PM , Anonymous Melinda said...

Prayers from here for this soldier's family and his fellow heroes. Always thinking of them from this corner of the world.

 
At 3/22/2007 4:26 PM , Blogger liberal army wife said...

we don't get the velvet hammers. I keep my eyes open for any of our groups, but since our Guard unit is in support of so many task forces.. we just wait for the local media to let us know. I always hate that moment when I say oh it's NOT my husband, friend... and the guilt that slams in right after that. When my son was there I did the same thing! It wasn't MY child, but it was SOMEONE'S child, someone else's heart was broken. This is a lot of guilt to carry around.

LAW

 
At 3/22/2007 7:08 PM , Blogger Laurie said...

Prayers for all.

 
At 3/22/2007 8:52 PM , Blogger jan wesner said...

I go to defenselink.mil everyday and read the press releases with the names of those who have been killed. The first thing I do is scan to see what unit they are in. Then I breathe a sigh of relief when it's not a unit that includes anyone I know. A horrible way to react, but it's just gut instinct.
The second thing I do is read their ages.
The third thing I do is wonder if they had a wife and kids.
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At 3/23/2007 6:00 AM , Blogger Stacy said...

Thoughts and prayers for this soldiers family.

 
At 3/24/2007 7:13 AM , Blogger Call Me Grandma said...

Sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.
Those words sound so empty but I truly mean them. These times make me feel so helpless. There really is nothing anyone can do or say.
Praying all of our troops stay safe and come home soon.

 
At 3/24/2007 6:47 PM , Blogger Kat said...

My heart is broken.. .yes, they just got there... i hate it... my heart cries with all... .(((hugs)))

 
At 3/29/2007 8:15 AM , Blogger barb pfister said...

My thoughts and prayers go out to the fine soldiers family. I know everybody says that but there are really know words that can convey the feelings we all have at the pain this family must be going through.

 

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